A Gloved Hand & An Entity

Mama put my guns in the ground
I can’t shoot them anymore
That cold black cloud is comin’ around
And I feel I’m knockin’ on heaven’s door
~Bob Dylan

I have had another episode. Geez, I did not see this one coming. It started innocently enough with me needing to take an antibiotic for two weeks due to a stomach bug I had. Well, the stomach bug has gone and that is good but, the antibiotic left some detritus in its wake and for three weeks I have been reeling from the flotsam and jetsam of it. I have been stable and solid for five years. One gets used to not having an episode. So, when one arrives starting with a lovely little piece of hypo-mania, well it is hard to detect.

The first thing that happened was my appetite completely changed. I had almost no appetite for several days. I was putting that to the antibiotic. Then, my garden became a perfect place of beauty. I was noticing so much. It was so pretty. The muted colours were brilliant. The brilliant colours were just bursting. The bees were little miracles. I couldn’t get enough. Didn’t want the day to end out there.

Then the numbers started: Leo was 22, I was 33 when he was born, I am 55, I was born in 66, Dean and I met in 88, Leo was born in 99. These numbers would roll through my brain over and over again. I checked the time and it was 4:44. Randomly, later I checked the time and it was 5:55. This just HAD to mean something. Right?

After a couple days like this I told my hubby that something was coming down the pike. I didn’t really believe it. Nor did he. Five years of wellness. How could this be? It was a Wednesday and I told him that he better get his office stuff and work from home for Thursday and Friday. I was going to need supervision. Adult supervision.

That night, middle of the night, I awoke. My insides were roiling. My head was spinning. Into the blackness of our room I called out to my husband Dean. A blessed heavy-sleeper. ‘Dean. Oh no. No! No! No! Something is happening. Dean!!!’

I sat up. I could not feel my lower body. It was numb. I couldn’t leave the bed.

Now I was wailing at the top of my lungs. Dean was clutching me and smoothing my back. Cooing It’s okay, it’s okay.

There is so much pain in the world, I said. So much pain in my family. So many people are so hurt. So many of my friends have such a hard life. I can’t take it, Dean. I can’t take it. My heart.

M, I am going to get the phone and get Leo in here (our 22 year old son).

Leo came to our bedroom door in his housecoat and sized up the situation. He had been fast asleep. He quickly saw that I was in complete distress. This was not pretend pain. This pain I was speaking of was real for me.

My hands clutched my chest. I was rocking and wailing No! No! No! I asked him to help me.

How can I help you Mom? What can I do?

Just sit here with me. Give me your arm to hold, I said with desperation in my voice. Talk to me.

Now I was gripping his strong arm thru his fleece robe. It was helping. But I was still feeling the pain of the people I love.

My heart is broken and it is going to open wide. This is going to be bad, Leo.

Leo answered with calm, strong words. ‘Mom, you are having an episode. You have a chemical imbalance in your brain which is causing you to feel like this right now. Dad and I are here to help you. Try to let it dissipate.” He was so grown up now. So manly and mature. I loved him hugely for these words and everything else about him. This is my child. I am blessed. Dean was running around trying to find the number for emergency mental health. Throwing items in a bag so we could get out the door to the emergency department of our area hospital.

Leo continued to tell me I was okay. But then it happened. A large hand, within a back glove and with pointing finger tips placed itself between my shoulder blades of my back. Words were whispered into my ear,

‘Go into the bathroom’, it ordered. ‘Lock the door and take all the Tylenol. Go now!’

When Dean came back into the room, I told him about the words that had been in my head, somehow not my own words. His face showed his fear. Leo told me not to listen to that voice. He said I should try my best to connect with him now and ground myself. Those things were being filtered through my mental illness. They need to be ignored, he said. (Meanwhile Dean ran and hid the Tylenol bottle).

Then I saw the entity in the dim part of my bedroom. He was standing there in a trench coat and a hat. Collar up, hat pulled down low. It was the calm spirit of my father. He was pleased that I had figured out the riddle. I had been sexually abused because he had been sexually abused. I had figured this out because of the press about private schools which he had attended. All boys’ schools could be (not always, but often) horribly dysfunctional and abusive places. Not only that, but he had died with CTE – chronic traumatic encephalopathy- due to the incredible number of head trauma that he had received through sport – hockey and football. The CTE had caused his rageaholism. Riddle solved. Understanding him would allow for compassion. Find the compassion he said.

By this time, I was ready and willing to go to the hospital because, thanks to Dean and Leo I was aware of the danger of my situation. It is a fact that suicide happens to a lot of folks with mental illness.

At emerg, a friend of mine, who is also an ER Doc, told me that suicide ideation is on the laundry list of items that happen to some folks during a panic attack. Who knew? He set me up with a psychiatrist for the next day and she was awesome. I feel like I am in very good hands. No black gloves. No pointy fingers.

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Thank you to google images for this picture.

6 thoughts on “A Gloved Hand & An Entity

  1. I hate that my good friend is going through this and being so far away. I am so grateful that you have Dean and Leo who have supported you with true love in their hearts. I am always an ear away to listen no matter what time it is. Hugs to feeling better and being able to release the bad thoughts from your brain. Xoxo

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    1. A tear rolls down my cheek Kel. Love you tons. You are the best mom to two wonderful young men. We will have some more good times in the near future. Most def!!!!

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  2. Hey there.Your description of the terror in your mind is unbelievable. I hope you are doing better now. You will get back to your solid beautiful self I hope very soon. Your husband and son are wonderful as well and you are lucky to have that.

    Xoxoxo Nancy

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    1. Thank you Nancy. You are true blue. You were there for the first one (Locked up in DC) and able to hear about this one due to this platform. As always, I strive to bring normalcy to mental illness. So many many of us have to deal with this and it helps remarkably to be able to speak of it as if it is just another one of the illnesses that we complex creatures are subjected to. I love your comments and will cherish them always.

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